My boys are far from the age of "awakening" but yesterdays Oprah show really had me all emotional about what is to come.....
(yes i actually watched it *gasp* i know)
Anyone else watch it??
First of all the whole "master...." i cant even finish the word, issue sorta ticked me off.....
I don't think it is "normal or natural" for a four year old to do that....I'M SORRY!! Can i get an AMEN??
But when they started the segment on "teen sex" i was overwhelmed with emotion, and pleased at how the therapist handled the FOURTEEN YEAR OLDS who thought they were "ready" to have sex.
Maybe its because of what i went through.....(if you aren't familiar with my "superman" story you need to be) but man oh man did i have a very hard time getting through that segment. I wanted to jump right through the TV and on to that set and shake those children....screaming DON'T DO IT....SAVE YOUR SELF!!!
If you have a teen child watching this episode would be great for you, because it gives you a series of questions to ask your child about sex.
It seemed to become a WHOLE new monster after they were asked VERY specific questions.
The one segment and question i was most intrigued by was when they asked :
"how long do you plan to stay together?"
My heart just broke into a million pieces when the young man started to answer......first he said
"well, a long time"
and then (here's the kicker) he was asked more specifically:
"how long do you consider to be "a long time" " and he answered
"6 months to a year"
I watched as the young girls whole demeanor changed....you could tell she was heart broken.....and i found myself weeping and answering for her when SHE was asked "how long did you expect to be together after making this BIG decision to give a piece of yourself to him?"
Come on ladies....we all know what we were thinking when we made that decision......
maybe some of you didn't, especially when you were at a mature age where you understood. But when you are a child, you think love is forever....i know this because this is what i thought.
I'm sure i am not the only mom who hopes and prays that her sons wait....but if they choose not to i will make SURE my sons know how BIG of a decision it is.
That it will effect them and their partner for the rest of their lives.....
that they will be allowing a piece of themselves to stay with that person forever.....
that they should ask themselves AND their partner what the expectations are afterwards, what they would do if they got pregnant, contracted an std or how long they expect to be together.......
Anyway, as i said....my boys are still very young.....but i am prayerfully preparing myself for this issue.
Father i need your guidance for whats to come.
i dont want them to grow up..... :(